One night just out of curiosity I went to bed first as normal but decided to pretend to be in a deep sleep (I made sure I did not have a lot to drink) to see if anything was going on. This continued every time I fell asleep after a drink and I could not work out why.

I had the feeling that I had had sex but did not remember - I would ask my husband if we had sex the night before and he would say no. We usually have a drink every weekend and I often fall into a deep drink induced sleepīut I began waking in the morning feeling sore down below. We have chatted about the lack of sex in our relationship but end up going around in circles I was happy to go through this until we were both ready to sort it out, until last year.

My husband is a loving man but is not demonstrative. Our sex life was very lusty and fulfilling when we first met - but it soon settled down to having sex once a month after a drink.